The Games We Play..

I can say this, because I've been guilty of it at one point in time, and I think all men have.  MEN PLAY GAMES!  Some of us grow out of it...and others never grow up.  Maybe they enjoy the thrill and see no value of a woman's feelings.  Maybe they just don't know how to treat a woman.  Or maybe they haven't had it done to them, so they don't know the pain that it can cause.  I see a lot of it.  

I'd like to say that this is simple but it isn't.  The type of guys that play such games are weak.  Weak minded, weak willed, weak in every aspect.  You'd think it be easy for women to spot this before they go to far with them.  In my previous blogs I have made comments that if a women holds herself to a higher standard and puts a high value on herself that she'd be able to shield off such men.  There's a big difference between holding a high standard and being a stuck up woman.  I would hope you ladies know the difference and don't take what I just said to the extreme.  If you respect yourself enough and have a good sense of what you want, that alone serves as a repellent to men who pray on woman to use them and leave.  I will tell you men like that prey on women with low self esteem.  It's so easy to spot them.  Then they say what they need to say to build them up, promising them the world.  Then they spit out lines of how much of a good man they are...to which if he was any type of real gentleman he wouldn't have to spout off about himself.  His demeanor and actions would speak loud enough.  Confidence and independence scare off men who are looking for games.  It's that simple.

I've also said this.  I don't believe any man fully knows what it is to love and respect a woman until he has a daughter of his own.  That's when it all clicked in my head.  I don't ever want her to experience the pain that I've seen some of my female friends endure through failed relationships, or just men that they have had interest in and couldn't spot that he was not someone they shouldn't be around.  I don't want her to to have memories of her own father treating women that way.  Whatever woman I end up with will know, and feel the respect I have for her, and honesty will be fluent.

I will say this in closing.  For those women that are victims to a broken heart...or just have simply been done wrong.  Don't carry it over to the next person.  Learn from it...grow from it...view it as a lesson learned.  But don't change who you are.  Don't let the actions of a man define how you will be.  Carry on with your elegance.  Be who you are, no matter what.

Peace & Love