GIRLS vs WOMEN

It pays to know the difference before you proceed with getting to know a femaie.....

Girls want to control the man in their life.
Grown women know that if he’s truly hers, he doesn’t need controlling.

Girls check you for not calling them.
Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn’t.

Girls are afraid to be alone.
Grown women revel in it-using it as a time for personal growth.

Girls ignore the good guys.
Grown women ignore the bad guys.

Girls make you come home.
Grown women make you want to come home.

Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans.
Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits.

Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man.
Grown women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.

Girls try to monopolize all their man’s time (i.e., don’t want him hanging with his friends).
Grown women realize that a lil’ bit of space makes the ‘together time’ even more special-and goes to kick it with her own friends.

Girls think a guy crying is weak.
Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue.

Girls want to be spoiled and ‘tell’ their man so.
Grown women ‘show’ him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his ‘manhood’.

Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it.
Grown women know that was just one man.

Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all ‘signs’.
Grown women know that sometimes the one you love, don’t always love you back-and move on, without bitterness.

Girls will read this and get an attitude.
Grown women will read this and pass it on to other Grown women & their male friends.

A Woman's Vocabulary, Keywords and Meanings

OK FELLAS....I'VE DONE MY HOMEWORK ON THIS ONE...READ....APPLY....STAY ALIVE..



FINE
This is the word we use at the end of any argument in which we feel we are right, but need to shut you up. NEVER use 'Fine' to describe how a woman looks. This will cause you to have one of those arguments.

FIVE MINUTES
This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so I feel that it's an even trade.

NOTHING
This means something and you should be on your toes. "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. "Nothing" usually signifies an argument that will last "Five Minutes" and end with the word "Fine".

GO AHEAD (with raised eyebrows)
This is a dare. One that will result in a woman getting upset over "Nothing" and will end with the word "Fine".

GO AHEAD (normal eyebrows)
This means "I give up" or "do what you want because I don't care". You will get a raised eyebrow "Go Ahead" in just a few minutes, followed by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she will talk to you in about "Five Minutes" when she cools off.

LOUD SIGH
This is not actually a word, but is still often a verbal statement very misunderstood by men. A "Loud Sigh" means she thinks you are an idiot at that moment and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over "Nothing".

SOFT SIGH
Again, not a word, but a verbal statement. "Soft Sighs" are one of the few things that some men actually understand. She is content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe and she will stay content.

OH
This word followed by any statement is trouble.
Example; "Oh, let me get that". Or, "Oh, I talked to him about what you were doing last night". If she says "Oh" before a statement, run, do not walk, to the nearest exit. She will tell you that she is "Fine" when she is done tossing your clothes out the window, but do not expect her to talk to you for at least 2 days. "Oh" as the lead-in to a sentence usually signifies that you are caught in a lie. Do not try to lie more to get out of it, or you will get raised eyebrows and a "Go ahead," followed by acts so unspeakable that I can't bring myself to write about them.

THAT'S OKAY
This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can say to a man. "That's Okay" means that she wants to think long and hard before visiting on you major retribution and tribulations for what ever it is that you have done. "That's Okay" is often used with the word "Fine" and used in conjunction with a raised eyebrow "Go Ahead". At some point in the near future when she has plotted and planned, you are going to be in some mighty big trouble.

PLEASE DO
This is not a statement, it is an offer. A woman is giving you the chance to come up with whatever excuse or reason you have for doing whatever it is that you have done. You have a fair chance to tell the truth, so be careful and you shouldn't get a "That's Okay".

THANKS
A woman is thanking you. Do not faint, just say you're welcome.

THANKS A LOT
This is much different than "Thanks". A woman will say, "Thanks A Lot" when she is really ticked off at you. It signifies that you have hurt her in some callous way, and will be followed by the "Loud Sigh". Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the "Loud Sigh", as she will only tell you "Nothing".

Still a Fan....Or Are You??.....

Ok people here's the thing.  I'm a fan of Chris Brown's music....and his dancing.  Best dancer in the game if you ask me. I'm also a fan of Kanye West...a huge fan.  He is a brilliant producer...fashion guru...and awesome entertainer (if you have seen him in concert).  These are just two examples of celebrities that have been in the center of bad media the last couple years.  However, I"M STILL A FAN.  I will explain why.


There must be something about Chris Brown for so many to hang on to the crime that he did.  So many other celebrities have done wrong...more wrong than he has and still...people are fans.  Before you go into a tizzy and flip out saying, "OMG AJ supports the beating of women!!"  No...completely the opposite.  I don't believe in such an act at all.  I am completely against a male raising his  hand to a women.  I can't fathom putting my hands on one at all.  It's not how I was raised, it's not what I believe in.  However, I do believe in forgiveness, retribution, and the possibility of someone learning a lesson and growing towards correcting their flaws.  Was Chris Brown wrong? HELL YES!  Did he deserve the humiliation that he suffered? ABSOLUTELY!  Do we need to punish the young man for the rest of his life...NO!  Not to mention, does anyone know what role Rhianna played in the dispute?  She played a major part!  Once again let me be clear, I don't believe that whatever she said or did in that car merits the ass whoopin she got from Mr. Brown.  This is a young man that obviously has anger issues, and did not know how to handle the situation like a mature man.  Not to mention you don't piss someone off that needs anger management while he's going 90mph on the freeway in a Lambo!  So Chris Brown took his punishment...has since then been major in the music industry and STILL, that's all people want to talk about.  I believe that he has to take responsibility for his behavior too however.  Being a star means being in the lime light at all times.  There is no such thing as complete privacy anymore.  It's what you signed up for and it's no doubt the price you pay for fame.  Deal with it.  The media is a bitch...a mean bitch, and it will rip you apart.  Dave Chappelle said in one of his comedy specials how he was going to protest the war in the beginning...until he saw what the media did to the Dixie Chicks when they dissed George Bush in a concert.  It was funny of him to say, but at the same time it showed maturity in knowing when to speak, when to react, and when to shut the hell up.  Still the boy is making mistakes.  Stealing cell phones, breaking windows, recording with the woman he lumped up, still though, I'm a fan.  He just has a lot of growing up to do and hopefully he does.  I have said this before.  I separate a persons artistry from their personal life.  If I was famous and the media did some digging on me...on any of us...could we handle it??

I'm not going to speak too much about Kanye West.  People have gotten over what he did to Taylor Smith. Asshole move?  Yes...sure it was.  Do I still love him and admire his music...YES!!  He's an asshole...but has managed to stay out of the eye of the media in a negative sense.  That's the difference between being grown minded and learning and being immature and carrying on acting like a damn fool.

These are people though...like us...just with money and cameras on them.  Separate their personal imperfections from their craft.  AND STOP JUDGING ME FOR LIKING THEM!!

Peace & Love

The Games We Play..

I can say this, because I've been guilty of it at one point in time, and I think all men have.  MEN PLAY GAMES!  Some of us grow out of it...and others never grow up.  Maybe they enjoy the thrill and see no value of a woman's feelings.  Maybe they just don't know how to treat a woman.  Or maybe they haven't had it done to them, so they don't know the pain that it can cause.  I see a lot of it.  

I'd like to say that this is simple but it isn't.  The type of guys that play such games are weak.  Weak minded, weak willed, weak in every aspect.  You'd think it be easy for women to spot this before they go to far with them.  In my previous blogs I have made comments that if a women holds herself to a higher standard and puts a high value on herself that she'd be able to shield off such men.  There's a big difference between holding a high standard and being a stuck up woman.  I would hope you ladies know the difference and don't take what I just said to the extreme.  If you respect yourself enough and have a good sense of what you want, that alone serves as a repellent to men who pray on woman to use them and leave.  I will tell you men like that prey on women with low self esteem.  It's so easy to spot them.  Then they say what they need to say to build them up, promising them the world.  Then they spit out lines of how much of a good man they are...to which if he was any type of real gentleman he wouldn't have to spout off about himself.  His demeanor and actions would speak loud enough.  Confidence and independence scare off men who are looking for games.  It's that simple.

I've also said this.  I don't believe any man fully knows what it is to love and respect a woman until he has a daughter of his own.  That's when it all clicked in my head.  I don't ever want her to experience the pain that I've seen some of my female friends endure through failed relationships, or just men that they have had interest in and couldn't spot that he was not someone they shouldn't be around.  I don't want her to to have memories of her own father treating women that way.  Whatever woman I end up with will know, and feel the respect I have for her, and honesty will be fluent.

I will say this in closing.  For those women that are victims to a broken heart...or just have simply been done wrong.  Don't carry it over to the next person.  Learn from it...grow from it...view it as a lesson learned.  But don't change who you are.  Don't let the actions of a man define how you will be.  Carry on with your elegance.  Be who you are, no matter what.

Peace & Love

The Aftermath....

When you have been in a serious relationship for a long period of time and then it comes to an end, the aftermath of it can be good and bad.  You may be bitter and hurting depending on the dramatics that led up to the break up or,  you could just be happy to be free of a situation that held you down.  I was in a relationship for six years and I still have no clue what to think of the changes that have occurred with my own personality.

In a nut shell I'm in that mindset where I know what I want...what I don't want...what I will tolerate...and what I won't tolerate.  It's that simple, at least to me it is.  To others, they may interpret that differently.  I just don't waste my time with situations that I don't see going anywhere.  Rather I don't waste my time OR the other persons time.  It's just a massive change when you get back out into the single world.  So many games are played by both sexes.  It's annoying as hell.  You see someone...you talk to them...they try to figure you out with these childish methods that are so frequently used.  I don't have time for that shit.  Let's be grown.  A lot of what's on my mind right now has been said in previous entries but...DAMMIT!!

I run into ladies that are damaged goods that still reflect on their past and want to tell you why they are they way they are, and why they have this unconquerable wall up that God himself can't climb.  So....what's your point?  Good honest men have endured the same pains and hurt feelings.  It's just as hard for us to get back out there as well.  Let's talk about right now...and later on...and the positives that are going our lives.  Allow me to ask you about YOU and YOUR goals.  Ask me about my family...my relationship with my parents.  Ask me about what I love most about fatherhood.  These are things that should take place amongst grown people.

Peace~&~Love

A Bit of a Rant....(I Hate Holding My Tongue)

I think speaking your mind is always a good thing....OK not always, but I am PRO saying whatever you have to say.  A lot of my friends have been telling me that I need to incorporate some censorship in my personality.  I personally think they should all be heavily medicated.  It's not easy for me to just be quite.  Especially when someone does something to piss me off.  


I am all the time saying that you should put into practice everyday "being yourself".  It's hard enough being yourself in the world we live in.  To be an individual is not an easy thing to do.  To stand on your own two feet and just say "I AM".  I don't like being around people who don't like who they are and try to be something they are not.  Those people are not trustworthy whatsoever.  They are needy, and if they are jealous of you, they will try to take what you have.  I am territorial so the mixture of those types of people and my willingness to tell people how I feel is just like throwing gas on a fire.

However....the point of this blog is me just venting because I am in a position right now where I have to shut my mouth and not say a word.  So I put it here.  Gotta love the Internet.  Seriously though....develop your own individuality. Your uniqueness is what makes you a beautiful person.  Be you...and only you....AND STAY AWAY FROM ME AND MINE!!!  I need a drink...

Peace & Love

Blessed To Have Them....

I think to myself a lot of times about how far I've come in life...the things that I've endured...the things that I still have yet to learn to better myself as a person, as a father, as a man.  One thing I've always wanted to do is make my parents proud.  At the same time I have this burning desire to pay them back for everything they have ever done for me.  They have disagreed  with certain things that have happened in my life, but overall they are the best parents that anyone can ask for.  This entry is dedicated to them, and EVERYTHING that is good about them.  


I have no reservations about saying that I'm a momma's boy.  I am...to the heart.  Pamela Cruz Smith is an amazing wife, mother, and women.  She has a heart of gold and does not hesitate to help anyone that she cares about.  I'm her only son, she reminds me of that all the time.  The conversation normally goes, You're my favorite son."  "Mom...I'm your only son."  I tell you what though, she means everything to me.  She has always worked hard, been there for me whenever.  We have had our battles in the past, but what do you expect from an emotional Hispanic woman lol.  Our relationship has struggled in recent years for the fact that my life has been going through changes, but she's my mother, and I love her unconditionally, and with the world that we live in and the way things are, we can't afford to let differences of opinions come between us.  I love you Mom.

Just this past April...Odis Clyde Smith....my father retired from a 40 year career at Caterpillar.  40 years of waking up at 4:30am, going to a job that he didn't necessarily like, but had a wife and 3 kids to provide for.  He did this without complaining, and without hesitation.  That's what the measure of a man is.  That's a man that loves his family.  I only hope and pray that I can become half the man that my father is.  He's another one that has been there for me through everything.  I know I say that a lot and it may be common sense to some people to say that "He's your father or she's your mother, why wouldn't they be there for you?"  But for me....for me....they have done more than I can ever express in words.  I am thankful to have Odis Smith as a father.  I'm blessed.

No words are good enough...my expressions are limited because nothing I can say or do in my eyes atleast, will ever be able to express my full appreciation for the types of people my parents are.  I just want to say that I love them for giving more of themselves for the benefit of me and my sisters.  I love you both.

~Peace & Love~

Love Everyday....not just TODAY!

Valentines Day....cards....candy.....teddy bears....roses.....whatever.


I don't get why one day out of the year is designated to focus on the love you have for someone.  I'm not knocking those that actually like to participate.  What woman doesn't like receiving the things that I just stated above.  I guess my approach is just different.  Love the people that you love...show them you love them...practice the love you have for them EVERYDAY.


Holidays anymore seem to bring a sense of obligation to most.  A feeling of expectancy.  To which causes more stress than anything else.  Look at Christmas.  Me personally, I just enjoy that time of year.  From the start of fall to the end of the Christmas season is what I like.  Simply because it brings families together.  You see the ones you love, eat more than you normally would (well some of us), and you just feel calm.  At least that's how it should be.  For others it brings an amount of financial stress that drags them down more so than it does build them up.

At work I here a lot of men pout and dread the fact that they HAVE to go and get something for Valentines Day.  That kind of ruins the thought behind the whole holiday does it not?  In the first place I would think that a women would like similar treatment that they receive on V-Day several days a year, not just one.
All in all fellas....ladies.....Love the one you are with, whole souled, with your whole heart.  Not just one day, but everyday.  Love effortlessly, without regret, and without obligation.  A mans quality time, attention, and affection  on a consistent basis is really the best gift that you can EVER give a woman.

Peace & Love

We fall.....We rise....We redeem....We forgive

With the recent postings that have been on Facebook within the last few hours during the Grammy's, I decided to spill some of my thoughts.  There were so many negative remarks towards the death of the late great vocal talent, and legendary singer Whitney Houston, as well as Chris Brown.  We live in a country where freedom of speech is a right that we all should take advantage of.  Unfortunately that right doesn't have restrictions on the amount of ignorance that should be displayed when you say what you have to say.  

Whitney Houston had personal battles just like the rest of us.  Hers may have been different from yours and mine but...they were hers, and they were magnified because of her celeb status.  She knew that would come with who she was.  Death is nothing to take lightly, nothing to make a mockery of.  She was a beautiful woman who's voice was touch by God.  It was one of the most powerful and awe inspiring forces in the music industry.  Mourn her...don't be a fan of her...do what you may, but don't relish in the fact that she had demons within herself that she was battling that may be different from the demons you battle in your own lives.

As far as Chris Brown....lets be clear. I DO NOT SUPPORT HITTING A WOMAN.  It's wrong, it should not happen.  What happened with him and Rhianna is something that changed both of their lives in the long wrong.  It's time to move on and let her live...and let him prosper in his rehabilitation as a young man, and keep doing the things that God blessed him with the abilities to do.  I will be the first one to say this again.  When you are a celebrity, you forfeit you privacy for the most part.  Everything you do is magnified and at the center of attention.  Keep in mind that he was and is young and had a problem.  Forgiveness is something I think all of us want whether it be from friends, family, or GOD.  Forgive him...let him live...enjoy his craft, if you are a fan that is.  The constant "woman beater" stats though....its old.

Ray Charles:  Jazz/Country Western ICON

Heroin Addict/Adulterer

Notorious Big: Hip Hop Legend

Crack Dealer

James Brown:  Godfather of Soul

Several Counts of Domestic Violence/ Cocaine User

Michael Jordan: Basketball Hall of Famer

Gambling Problem/Fathered a child out of wed lock

I can go on and on with this list, and so can you, take your favorite sports star, music artist, actor/actress and dig deep and see what you can find on them.  Better yet, take your mother, or father, sister or brother.  Look at their lives, what they have done or been through.  The point is that EVERYBODY has problems.  Some more serious than the next.  A lot of you that are reading this are like me.  I separate a celebrities personal issues and dealings from the real reason I am a fan of theirs in the first place.  I suggest all people do that and stop making yourselves sound like asses when you speak about someone else's situations.

Rip Whitney Houston

Peace & Love Yall

Dating...As I See It Through My Eyes...

It's funny...I used to think that not having a type as far as what type of women I wanted to date, was the way to go.  Keeping my options open so to say.  While that may be true to this day as far as race, the rest of that scenario is just unrealistic.  It just is, there is no way you can pursue a dating situation without knowing at least somewhat, what type of woman you are looking for.  What type of woman compliments you?  Can you compliment her?  Is she happy with herself and vice versa?  What type of baggage does she have and vice versa?  Is she sane?  What are her goals?  Is she TOO INDEPENDENT?  YES THAT IS A LEGIT AND REAL QUESTION!!  These are all things to consider, that NEED to be considered.

I will address the "too independent" question, as I take it some ladies will read this and wonder what I mean.  Listen, I'm all about independence.  For men and women.  So many times I hear women say, "I don't need a man!!"  OK fine, yes, maybe you don't. On the same kick, stop lying to yourself because you know you want one.  To which there is nothing wrong with that.  You just want the RIGHT one.  However ladies, STOP THROWING YOUR INDEPENDENCE IN OUR FACES.  With independence should come a sense of humility and gratitude to God.  Everything we have can be gone before we know it.  So it's like, I see these successful and independent women, who deserve a man that they can build a partnership with in life, and yet they don't really hold high enough standards for themselves and end up selling themselves short.  Why is that by the way?  For instance I saw a successful woman I know over the weekend out with a guy that just screamed douche bag, yet, if you talk to her, she complains about being hurt, not trusting men blah blah blah tear drops and a Waiting to Exhale movie.  Look at your taste, and the quality that YOU yourself select.  Do you see the imbalance I'm referring to here?  Just one of the many reasons why you can't just wing it when you try to step into the havoc of dating.

One of my personal favorites, well, not really my favorites but the kind of woman that drives me nuts is the "I want a bad boy" woman.  So here's what I say to that.   In 6 months, if you're not already, you will be DAMAGED GOODS.  So much so that guys like me when you run into us have to endure that type of stress that Obama had his first year of office where we have to play "clean up" after the guy who left office.  Sometimes it can be worth it, other times, its just not.  Once again it comes down to standards.  Having a sense of worth and dignity.  I am taking this advice too.  My choices could have been better in the past.  I know my worth though, and I know there is a women that will see that in me and will appreciate it.

I come from a two parent house hold.  My Mom and Dad are still together after 30+ years of marriage.  So I think it is embedded in me to think, know, and believe that good relationships do exist and can exist.  No one should ever think they have to change who they are for the sake of receiving the attention of another person. Self worth, and a humble heart being displayed by a man and a women are whats needed.

Ladies imagine a man that you have interest in.  You talk on the phone.  You go on the first few dates.  He calls you during the day and says, "Come over tonight, lets stay in.  I will get us a movie.  I'm cooking, just tell me what you like. I will grab your favorite wine.  We can talk, we can laugh, and listen to music.   Now as things progress....he stays the same. He doesn't change, his newness hasn't worn off.  Your newness to him is still shining bright.

It does exist....I promise you it does.   If you want it to.

Peace~N~Love Yall

Friend or Foe 2012

My Dad always told me that as I climb up in age, I would be able to count my TRUE friends on one hand.  At the time of him telling me this, there was no way that I thought that was true.  I was only 14, who at that age can imagine not having a ton of friends.  I'm 28 now, and  I can say that he was right.

I want to be clear about something...I have been through literal hell this last year and a half.  For those of you that read this and are on my Facebook, it may not seem like it because I am always cracking jokes on my statuses.  However, 2011 was a complete nightmare for me.  I went through a lot with my family, and there were some other issues I was dealing with.  It was a pure roller coaster, and life is just now getting back to the norm, whatever the norm may be.  I say this with humility and sincerity that I am in no way arrogant, nor do I put myself over anyone.  With as much as I have dealt with, I am in no position to do things like that.  With that being said,  why the hell do I have the haters that I do??  It's crazy!!!  I lost a best friend in the past year for no good reason whatsoever other than he was jealous.  He admitted it in an argument.  Jealous of what??  Grown men should not behave that way...at all.  It's just mind boggling!!  I am me, nothing more, nothing less.  My motivation in succeeding is my 2 kids.  They mean everything, they deserve the best that I can provide.  I don't push myself for personal gain.  It's hard to succeed in this world and pursue your dreams.  Hell it's hard enough just trying to survive and make ends meet.  But when those two kids of mine were born, it became about them, ALL ABOUT THEM.

I have been able to define what real friends are this past year.  Real friends aren't just in your presence during your high moments.  They don't call or stick around when they need something.  Real friends aren't just there for your victories, but they are they during your failures.  They are there in your moments of weakness.  I'm thankful for the few that I do have.  They know who they are.

Fatherhood Is My Blessing....

I love being a father.  The blessings that it brings is second to none.  When your children are born...they are perfect.  You haven't done anything to mess them up or lead them down the wrong path.  Watching my kids grow has been an experience that words can never describe.  The little things they do just amaze me.  Things that they say, things that they comprehend, emotions that they feel.  It's all just mind blowing.  For that I am thankful.

My daughter London is a shining star.  Just beautiful and intelligent.  Anymore everything she says to me just blows me away.  I can't lie that I relish in the fact that she is completely a "Daddy's Girl".  I think a lot about how precious she is and the importance of the role that I play as a father is.  There's an expression that says that "A man will never know how to truly treat a women until he has a daughter"  I agree with that.  I fast forward to when she will be of age to date.  What type of guy would I want to be in her company? Do I myself, conduct myself in a manner that I would want this guy to with my daughter?  I want to set an example for her, showing her how a man should treat a women.  I have a long time before all that happens (Thank God), but it is now, that she needs to see how it is that a women should be treated.  This little girl is my world, my inspiration, my joy.  There's nothing that I won't do for her to succeed in life.

My son Malachi is just an amazing young man.  He has an unbelievable infatuation with Thomas The Train LOL.  I can remember back when he was born, and I was just so excited to have a little boy.  He's beautiful!  It's ironic that his name means "Messenger of God".  I can recall a time or two when I would be in a mood, maybe it just be sad or maybe I was frustrated, and this kid would come up to me out of no where and just hug me and say "I love you Daddy, smile!"  And he would smile, I would smile, and for that moment nothing else mattered.  He is a gift, a divine gift, just like his sister.

For me, my children have helped define who I am.  They put things in perspective.  Life is always going to bring new challenges whether welcomed or not.  There will be times of pain, suffering, sorrow, but if you are a good parent, your children will reciprocate your actions with love and actions that can never ever be replaced in your heart.  Think about it, they know nothing of struggle at a young age.  They have no understanding of what bills are, or a 9 to 5 job.  They are sources of happiness and blessings.  I know mine are.  London Aarabella Smith & Malachi Decklyn Smith.....Daddy loves you more than you can ever imagine.  You are everything to me!!

One Day...It Will Make Sense

Lately I've noticed that I am not a lot of women's type, and for some reason it took me a while to come to that conclusion.  Or maybe I came to the idea a long time ago but wasn't ready to face it in my own head.  Call it arrogance or what have you, but I consider myself to be a good man...a good person overall.  After observing people, whether it be in person, or via Facebook, I came the realization that maybe I desire the wrong type of women AND, maybe some of these ladies just have have poor standards.  I guess they go hand in hand.


It just angers me to no end sometimes.  Beautiful woman...good job...her own home..nice car....shitty good for nothing below average man.  Now look at that equation....go ahead look at it.  If you have any kind of sense in your head you should be having the same type of reaction that I have..WHAT THE FUCK??


Now it has been explained to me that being "light skinned" and "talking proper" puts me in a category of being soft, too proper, not "thug enough."   To the women that say that to me and honestly think that,  get your mind right.  That or just kill yourself.  Yes, these things are said to me on the regular.  Now I will take ownership over my portion of the blame here as far as, Why the hell am I attracted to these types of women?  However, I think in these ladies I see a certain type of strong personality that I like.  I mean, I know for fact it takes a strong women to be able to handle me.  So maybe that's it.  You may find that reasoning to be bullshit....but ...yeah.


Bottom line...I grew up in a 2 parent home.  My father worked hard, stayed on the job for 40 years.  Took care of me and my 2 sisters and was a model husband to my mother.  These are the things I grew up seeing.  I didn't see my father call my mother a bitch, or a hoe, never did he put his hands on her.  He respected her, loved her, honored her, and took delight in her strength as a women.  However my mothers role in that was important as well, in that she ALLOWED him to do these things, and EXCEPTED it with love and joy.  These are things I just don't see anymore, at least in my generation.  Women are hard minded and thrive on men that they shouldn't.


All I know how to be is me...that's how I will stay.  If you waste time on someone or something that has no positive effect in your life...what are you saying about yourself...what value do you have on your own life?




Peace~&~Love