I think speaking your mind is always a good thing....OK not always, but I am PRO saying whatever you have to say. A lot of my friends have been telling me that I need to incorporate some censorship in my personality. I personally think they should all be heavily medicated. It's not easy for me to just be quite. Especially when someone does something to piss me off.
I am all the time saying that you should put into practice everyday "being yourself". It's hard enough being yourself in the world we live in. To be an individual is not an easy thing to do. To stand on your own two feet and just say "I AM". I don't like being around people who don't like who they are and try to be something they are not. Those people are not trustworthy whatsoever. They are needy, and if they are jealous of you, they will try to take what you have. I am territorial so the mixture of those types of people and my willingness to tell people how I feel is just like throwing gas on a fire.
However....the point of this blog is me just venting because I am in a position right now where I have to shut my mouth and not say a word. So I put it here. Gotta love the Internet. Seriously though....develop your own individuality. Your uniqueness is what makes you a beautiful person. Be you...and only you....AND STAY AWAY FROM ME AND MINE!!! I need a drink...
Peace & Love
Saturday, February 25, 2012
Sunday, February 19, 2012
Blessed To Have Them....
I think to myself a lot of times about how far I've come in life...the things that I've endured...the things that I still have yet to learn to better myself as a person, as a father, as a man. One thing I've always wanted to do is make my parents proud. At the same time I have this burning desire to pay them back for everything they have ever done for me. They have disagreed with certain things that have happened in my life, but overall they are the best parents that anyone can ask for. This entry is dedicated to them, and EVERYTHING that is good about them.
I have no reservations about saying that I'm a momma's boy. I am...to the heart. Pamela Cruz Smith is an amazing wife, mother, and women. She has a heart of gold and does not hesitate to help anyone that she cares about. I'm her only son, she reminds me of that all the time. The conversation normally goes, You're my favorite son." "Mom...I'm your only son." I tell you what though, she means everything to me. She has always worked hard, been there for me whenever. We have had our battles in the past, but what do you expect from an emotional Hispanic woman lol. Our relationship has struggled in recent years for the fact that my life has been going through changes, but she's my mother, and I love her unconditionally, and with the world that we live in and the way things are, we can't afford to let differences of opinions come between us. I love you Mom.
Just this past April...Odis Clyde Smith....my father retired from a 40 year career at Caterpillar. 40 years of waking up at 4:30am, going to a job that he didn't necessarily like, but had a wife and 3 kids to provide for. He did this without complaining, and without hesitation. That's what the measure of a man is. That's a man that loves his family. I only hope and pray that I can become half the man that my father is. He's another one that has been there for me through everything. I know I say that a lot and it may be common sense to some people to say that "He's your father or she's your mother, why wouldn't they be there for you?" But for me....for me....they have done more than I can ever express in words. I am thankful to have Odis Smith as a father. I'm blessed.
No words are good enough...my expressions are limited because nothing I can say or do in my eyes atleast, will ever be able to express my full appreciation for the types of people my parents are. I just want to say that I love them for giving more of themselves for the benefit of me and my sisters. I love you both.
~Peace & Love~
I have no reservations about saying that I'm a momma's boy. I am...to the heart. Pamela Cruz Smith is an amazing wife, mother, and women. She has a heart of gold and does not hesitate to help anyone that she cares about. I'm her only son, she reminds me of that all the time. The conversation normally goes, You're my favorite son." "Mom...I'm your only son." I tell you what though, she means everything to me. She has always worked hard, been there for me whenever. We have had our battles in the past, but what do you expect from an emotional Hispanic woman lol. Our relationship has struggled in recent years for the fact that my life has been going through changes, but she's my mother, and I love her unconditionally, and with the world that we live in and the way things are, we can't afford to let differences of opinions come between us. I love you Mom.
Just this past April...Odis Clyde Smith....my father retired from a 40 year career at Caterpillar. 40 years of waking up at 4:30am, going to a job that he didn't necessarily like, but had a wife and 3 kids to provide for. He did this without complaining, and without hesitation. That's what the measure of a man is. That's a man that loves his family. I only hope and pray that I can become half the man that my father is. He's another one that has been there for me through everything. I know I say that a lot and it may be common sense to some people to say that "He's your father or she's your mother, why wouldn't they be there for you?" But for me....for me....they have done more than I can ever express in words. I am thankful to have Odis Smith as a father. I'm blessed.
No words are good enough...my expressions are limited because nothing I can say or do in my eyes atleast, will ever be able to express my full appreciation for the types of people my parents are. I just want to say that I love them for giving more of themselves for the benefit of me and my sisters. I love you both.
~Peace & Love~
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Love Everyday....not just TODAY!
Valentines Day....cards....candy.....teddy bears....roses.....whatever.
I don't get why one day out of the year is designated to focus on the love you have for someone. I'm not knocking those that actually like to participate. What woman doesn't like receiving the things that I just stated above. I guess my approach is just different. Love the people that you love...show them you love them...practice the love you have for them EVERYDAY.
Holidays anymore seem to bring a sense of obligation to most. A feeling of expectancy. To which causes more stress than anything else. Look at Christmas. Me personally, I just enjoy that time of year. From the start of fall to the end of the Christmas season is what I like. Simply because it brings families together. You see the ones you love, eat more than you normally would (well some of us), and you just feel calm. At least that's how it should be. For others it brings an amount of financial stress that drags them down more so than it does build them up.
At work I here a lot of men pout and dread the fact that they HAVE to go and get something for Valentines Day. That kind of ruins the thought behind the whole holiday does it not? In the first place I would think that a women would like similar treatment that they receive on V-Day several days a year, not just one.
All in all fellas....ladies.....Love the one you are with, whole souled, with your whole heart. Not just one day, but everyday. Love effortlessly, without regret, and without obligation. A mans quality time, attention, and affection on a consistent basis is really the best gift that you can EVER give a woman.
Peace & Love
I don't get why one day out of the year is designated to focus on the love you have for someone. I'm not knocking those that actually like to participate. What woman doesn't like receiving the things that I just stated above. I guess my approach is just different. Love the people that you love...show them you love them...practice the love you have for them EVERYDAY.
Holidays anymore seem to bring a sense of obligation to most. A feeling of expectancy. To which causes more stress than anything else. Look at Christmas. Me personally, I just enjoy that time of year. From the start of fall to the end of the Christmas season is what I like. Simply because it brings families together. You see the ones you love, eat more than you normally would (well some of us), and you just feel calm. At least that's how it should be. For others it brings an amount of financial stress that drags them down more so than it does build them up.
At work I here a lot of men pout and dread the fact that they HAVE to go and get something for Valentines Day. That kind of ruins the thought behind the whole holiday does it not? In the first place I would think that a women would like similar treatment that they receive on V-Day several days a year, not just one.
All in all fellas....ladies.....Love the one you are with, whole souled, with your whole heart. Not just one day, but everyday. Love effortlessly, without regret, and without obligation. A mans quality time, attention, and affection on a consistent basis is really the best gift that you can EVER give a woman.
Peace & Love
Sunday, February 12, 2012
We fall.....We rise....We redeem....We forgive
With the recent postings that have been on Facebook within the last few hours during the Grammy's, I decided to spill some of my thoughts. There were so many negative remarks towards the death of the late great vocal talent, and legendary singer Whitney Houston, as well as Chris Brown. We live in a country where freedom of speech is a right that we all should take advantage of. Unfortunately that right doesn't have restrictions on the amount of ignorance that should be displayed when you say what you have to say.
Whitney Houston had personal battles just like the rest of us. Hers may have been different from yours and mine but...they were hers, and they were magnified because of her celeb status. She knew that would come with who she was. Death is nothing to take lightly, nothing to make a mockery of. She was a beautiful woman who's voice was touch by God. It was one of the most powerful and awe inspiring forces in the music industry. Mourn her...don't be a fan of her...do what you may, but don't relish in the fact that she had demons within herself that she was battling that may be different from the demons you battle in your own lives.
As far as Chris Brown....lets be clear. I DO NOT SUPPORT HITTING A WOMAN. It's wrong, it should not happen. What happened with him and Rhianna is something that changed both of their lives in the long wrong. It's time to move on and let her live...and let him prosper in his rehabilitation as a young man, and keep doing the things that God blessed him with the abilities to do. I will be the first one to say this again. When you are a celebrity, you forfeit you privacy for the most part. Everything you do is magnified and at the center of attention. Keep in mind that he was and is young and had a problem. Forgiveness is something I think all of us want whether it be from friends, family, or GOD. Forgive him...let him live...enjoy his craft, if you are a fan that is. The constant "woman beater" stats though....its old.
Ray Charles: Jazz/Country Western ICON
Heroin Addict/Adulterer
Notorious Big: Hip Hop Legend
Crack Dealer
James Brown: Godfather of Soul
Several Counts of Domestic Violence/ Cocaine User
Michael Jordan: Basketball Hall of Famer
Gambling Problem/Fathered a child out of wed lock
I can go on and on with this list, and so can you, take your favorite sports star, music artist, actor/actress and dig deep and see what you can find on them. Better yet, take your mother, or father, sister or brother. Look at their lives, what they have done or been through. The point is that EVERYBODY has problems. Some more serious than the next. A lot of you that are reading this are like me. I separate a celebrities personal issues and dealings from the real reason I am a fan of theirs in the first place. I suggest all people do that and stop making yourselves sound like asses when you speak about someone else's situations.
Rip Whitney Houston
Peace & Love Yall
Rip Whitney Houston
Peace & Love Yall
Wednesday, February 1, 2012
Dating...As I See It Through My Eyes...
It's funny...I used to think that not having a type as far as what type of women I wanted to date, was the way to go. Keeping my options open so to say. While that may be true to this day as far as race, the rest of that scenario is just unrealistic. It just is, there is no way you can pursue a dating situation without knowing at least somewhat, what type of woman you are looking for. What type of woman compliments you? Can you compliment her? Is she happy with herself and vice versa? What type of baggage does she have and vice versa? Is she sane? What are her goals? Is she TOO INDEPENDENT? YES THAT IS A LEGIT AND REAL QUESTION!! These are all things to consider, that NEED to be considered.
I will address the "too independent" question, as I take it some ladies will read this and wonder what I mean. Listen, I'm all about independence. For men and women. So many times I hear women say, "I don't need a man!!" OK fine, yes, maybe you don't. On the same kick, stop lying to yourself because you know you want one. To which there is nothing wrong with that. You just want the RIGHT one. However ladies, STOP THROWING YOUR INDEPENDENCE IN OUR FACES. With independence should come a sense of humility and gratitude to God. Everything we have can be gone before we know it. So it's like, I see these successful and independent women, who deserve a man that they can build a partnership with in life, and yet they don't really hold high enough standards for themselves and end up selling themselves short. Why is that by the way? For instance I saw a successful woman I know over the weekend out with a guy that just screamed douche bag, yet, if you talk to her, she complains about being hurt, not trusting men blah blah blah tear drops and a Waiting to Exhale movie. Look at your taste, and the quality that YOU yourself select. Do you see the imbalance I'm referring to here? Just one of the many reasons why you can't just wing it when you try to step into the havoc of dating.
One of my personal favorites, well, not really my favorites but the kind of woman that drives me nuts is the "I want a bad boy" woman. So here's what I say to that. In 6 months, if you're not already, you will be DAMAGED GOODS. So much so that guys like me when you run into us have to endure that type of stress that Obama had his first year of office where we have to play "clean up" after the guy who left office. Sometimes it can be worth it, other times, its just not. Once again it comes down to standards. Having a sense of worth and dignity. I am taking this advice too. My choices could have been better in the past. I know my worth though, and I know there is a women that will see that in me and will appreciate it.
I come from a two parent house hold. My Mom and Dad are still together after 30+ years of marriage. So I think it is embedded in me to think, know, and believe that good relationships do exist and can exist. No one should ever think they have to change who they are for the sake of receiving the attention of another person. Self worth, and a humble heart being displayed by a man and a women are whats needed.
Ladies imagine a man that you have interest in. You talk on the phone. You go on the first few dates. He calls you during the day and says, "Come over tonight, lets stay in. I will get us a movie. I'm cooking, just tell me what you like. I will grab your favorite wine. We can talk, we can laugh, and listen to music. Now as things progress....he stays the same. He doesn't change, his newness hasn't worn off. Your newness to him is still shining bright.
It does exist....I promise you it does. If you want it to.
Peace~N~Love Yall
I will address the "too independent" question, as I take it some ladies will read this and wonder what I mean. Listen, I'm all about independence. For men and women. So many times I hear women say, "I don't need a man!!" OK fine, yes, maybe you don't. On the same kick, stop lying to yourself because you know you want one. To which there is nothing wrong with that. You just want the RIGHT one. However ladies, STOP THROWING YOUR INDEPENDENCE IN OUR FACES. With independence should come a sense of humility and gratitude to God. Everything we have can be gone before we know it. So it's like, I see these successful and independent women, who deserve a man that they can build a partnership with in life, and yet they don't really hold high enough standards for themselves and end up selling themselves short. Why is that by the way? For instance I saw a successful woman I know over the weekend out with a guy that just screamed douche bag, yet, if you talk to her, she complains about being hurt, not trusting men blah blah blah tear drops and a Waiting to Exhale movie. Look at your taste, and the quality that YOU yourself select. Do you see the imbalance I'm referring to here? Just one of the many reasons why you can't just wing it when you try to step into the havoc of dating.
One of my personal favorites, well, not really my favorites but the kind of woman that drives me nuts is the "I want a bad boy" woman. So here's what I say to that. In 6 months, if you're not already, you will be DAMAGED GOODS. So much so that guys like me when you run into us have to endure that type of stress that Obama had his first year of office where we have to play "clean up" after the guy who left office. Sometimes it can be worth it, other times, its just not. Once again it comes down to standards. Having a sense of worth and dignity. I am taking this advice too. My choices could have been better in the past. I know my worth though, and I know there is a women that will see that in me and will appreciate it.
I come from a two parent house hold. My Mom and Dad are still together after 30+ years of marriage. So I think it is embedded in me to think, know, and believe that good relationships do exist and can exist. No one should ever think they have to change who they are for the sake of receiving the attention of another person. Self worth, and a humble heart being displayed by a man and a women are whats needed.
Ladies imagine a man that you have interest in. You talk on the phone. You go on the first few dates. He calls you during the day and says, "Come over tonight, lets stay in. I will get us a movie. I'm cooking, just tell me what you like. I will grab your favorite wine. We can talk, we can laugh, and listen to music. Now as things progress....he stays the same. He doesn't change, his newness hasn't worn off. Your newness to him is still shining bright.
It does exist....I promise you it does. If you want it to.
Peace~N~Love Yall
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